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 Character Interview ~ Wild Irish Yenta by Joyce Sanderly

Please help me welcome today’s guests, Joyce Sanderly and Patricia Weiss…

Character Interview with Patricia Weiss, protagonist-narrator of Wild Irish Yenta

1. Tell us a bit about yourself and the title of the book?                    

Wild Irish Yenta, yes, that’s me, Mrs. Patricia (nee Reilly) Weiss, wife of a Jewish cardiologist and daughter of good Catholic parents. My Italian-American mother is a nurse and a dynamite cook. I followed my mother’s path into nursing. Unfortunately I did not inherit her culinary gene, much to the dismay of my foodie husband and my adorable four-year-old son. My Irish- American dad was a detective in the Randolph, Massachusetts police force and I did inherit his love of solving crimes and puzzles. 

My addictive attraction to puzzling is one of the reasons I was compelled to investigate the mysterious death of Roberto Gomez, the custodian at my family’s temple in suburban Maryland. His body was found in the temple’s parking lot squashed against a garbage bin. I had been tutoring Roberto with his English language skills. Roberto was struggling to be adopted by a new country, learn a new language, and hold down a job to support his family. I felt a kinship with him. I, too, felt like an outsider. As a recent convert to Judaism, I was trying to gain acceptance into the Jewish faith, the temple, and my husband’s family (especially my mother-in-law). In spite of my overly cautious doctor-husband’s wishes, my temple buddy Brenda and I designated ourselves the Yenta Patrol to unravel the mystery. 

What is a yenta you may ask. As with most Yiddish words, there is no precise English equivalent. My buddy Brenda defines yenta as a wise and knowledgeable female who distributes essential information to parties who have a need to know, kind of like an analog version of social media. A less complimentary definition of the term yenta might be “busybody.” In any event Brenda and I made a great detecting team, and we had good intentions at heart.

2. What made you choose nursing as a profession/career?

I was encouraged to follow my mother into nursing. My mother managed to take good care of both her patients and her family. She cooked amazing meals – lasagna and peach pie – and made sure she was home while my father worked long and unpredictable hours. I followed my mother’s nursing path in hopes that I could simultaneously pursue a caring profession and raise a family. Although other women of my generation were going into law and medicine, none seemed to live in Randolph. I enjoyed my nursing responsibilities in the hospital. Plus I met my handsome husband when he was a resident in cardiology at the hospital. But when my son Danny was born, I decided to be a full-time mom. My husband was just establishing his cardiology practice in Maryland, and I wanted to ensure I was available to give Danny hugs and meet his needs. 

In retrospect, I might have chosen differently. If I had been a boy I might have followed my father into the police force and become a detective. However, a detective can be put in compromising situations where she has to intimidate witnesses and bend the truth to obtain the truth. It’s not like being a firefighter. No one is happy to see a detective on the doorstep with a search warrant. In an ideal world with unlimited resources of time and money, I think I would have pursued a medical career. Perhaps I would have become an infectious disease doc or a pathologist who unraveled medical mysteries. In any event, I am going to encourage my son (and hopefully more children to come) to follow his heart and mind when choosing a career. 

3. What is my biggest fear?

My biggest fear is not being the best mother I can be for Danny, my four-year-old son. He is such a smart, sweet child. He shares with friends and asks lots of questions. I want to encourage him to be curious, to try new things, but I don’t want to pressure him or stress him out. I wish I could ensure him a happy life, but I know that is impossible. He will have to face many challenges by himself. I can only provide a safe and loving environment and give him as many opportunities as possible. I wish I knew when to protect and when to pull back. My parents were good parents but they were very traditional, and I was raised in a different era.  The world has become a much complicated place, what with social media, global warming, and pandemics. I hope I can raise Danny to be a caring person and to have the tools he needs to make fulfilling choices. 

4. Who are my favorite fictional character and why?

Growing up, I loved reading Nancy Drew mysteries and the Hardy Boys. I watched Cagney and Lacey reruns and Murder She Wrote on TV. My favorite character is Detective Olivia Benson on Law & Order SVU. She is compassionate and works for victim rights. She is not only a relentless pursuer of crime but also a single parent raising a young son.  

5. What is the best piece of advice I have ever received?

The best recent pieces of advice I have received come from my mentor Rabbi Deborah who guided me through the conversion process and from my buddy Brenda. Rabbi Deborah has convinced me that I need to be more accepting of my husband’s behavior, my mother-in-law’s behavior, and my own behavior. No one is perfect, and I need to learn to be more forgiving of all of our flaws. At the same time, Rabbi Deborah has emphasized that I should not give up on pursuing my own interests outside of the family. Rabbi Deborah has also emphasized that a married couple must be loving and beloved friends, passionate partners for life. Brenda, the most experienced spouse of the three of us, has made clear that marriage is a 50/50 proposition – both partners must share the responsibilities and the fun times equally.

To learn her new religion and keep memories of her birth faith, to improve her marriage to a cardiologist and his Jewish mother, to solve a mysterious death and disappearance at her temple—she wants it all—the Wild Irish Yenta!

Blurb:

Set against a backdrop of a suburban Maryland synagogue, Wild Irish Yenta dishes on interfaith marriage, misbehaving clergy, Biblical myth, and the beauty of religious traditions. When the body of custodian Roberto Gomez is found in Temple Israel’s parking lot, Patricia Weiss, nee Reilly, exchanges her suburban-mom sneakers for gumshoes to investigate the hit-and-run. An ardent new convert to Judaism, Patricia is grappling with her outsider status at the upscale

Reform congregation. For Roberto, the stakes had been much higher. He was struggling to be

adopted by a new country and learn a new language. Inspired by her detective dad, Patricia is compelled to find out who-dun-it and why.

This novel takes a wry look at marriage, insular suburban cliques, and the politics of religious institutions. While poking fun at cultural stereotypes, the novel interweaves biblical stories with questions of contemporary concern. Can a nice Catholic girl find happiness with a Jewish cardiologist even if she converts? Can Patricia’s yenta patrol detect a connection between a custodian’s death and other troubling happenings at the Temple?

“In Wild Irish Yenta, Philip Roth meets Agatha Christie, and the result is a page-turner that also explores the interlocking dynamics that exist within an interfaith marriage, a family and a Maryland synagogue.” — Michelle Brafman, author of Swimming With Ghosts.    

“This keenly observed, funny mystery … combines an insightful look at interfaith marriage, the complexities of friendship, and the politics of religious institutions.” – Susan Coll, author of Bookish People 

Excerpt:

Patricia owed it to Roberto to try to figure out exactly what happened the night he died.  She felt a kinship with him. Like her, he had been an outsider trying to fit in. While she was trying to gain acceptance into the Jewish faith, the temple, and her husband’s family, for Roberto the stakes had been much higher. He was struggling to be adopted by a new country, learn a language, and hold down a job to support his family. He’d described to her how he left his home and many of his relatives in El Salvador, because of gang violence perpetrated against innocent people. He’d worried the M-13 gang would try to recruit his son to sell drugs. Anyone refusing or complaining to the police could be subject to retaliation.

Patricia’s paternal grandfather had told her how he emigrated from Ireland in the middle of an economic panic that devastated the family farm. He fought for a longshoreman’s job and a decent place to live in Boston. Neither of Patricia’s parents had earned college degrees, and Patricia could see she had taken a leap upon arriving on the shores of Potomac Pines. Roberto had a much higher bar to clear but he was on his way, improving his English fluency and learning computer skills. 

The blare of her cellphone’s Real Detective ringtone made her jump. It was Michael.

“Just checking in. I was worried—that hit and run—your friend Roberto’s death. What a waste. Did you park close to the entrance?”

“I’m fine. I’m leaving.”

“Please, use the phone flashlight to get to the car. Be careful. Danny and I are hoping for good night kisses.” 

Patricia smiled at the plaintive note in Michael’s voice. “Be there in ten minutes.”

Home in time for bed check and kisses—what more could she desire? Nice to feel her presence was missed. Coming from a big family, that had not frequently been the case. She appreciated Michael’s concern, but his protectiveness could be overbearing. Like having her own personal Jewish mother. 

On the other hand, their contrasting backgrounds contributed to that mysterious je ne sais quoi—the irresistible magnetism that attracted her to him physically and intellectually. She was drawn in by his deep eyes, abundant curls, forthright opinions, intellectual prowess. And considering prowess, when it came to sex, his caring and tenderness were great assets. No denying that appeal. The old myth about relationships being based on having lots in common was dubious. More important, they were able to relate to each other and navigate life together. Admittedly they did need to work on their problem-solving abilities.       

Plus Michael was a good provider. His cardiology practice gave her the freedom not to work, at least for a few years.  But was nursemaid the only role she wanted? She sighed. She would have to consider what choices lay ahead. But tonight she was tired. She couldn’t wait to hug and kiss her warm boys before they fell asleep.    

Buy links:

Available at Amazon  https://www.amazon.com/Wild-Irish-Yenta-Joyce-Sanderly-ebook/dp/B0CVXW6H8K     

Barnes & Noble   https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/wild-irish-yenta-joyce-anderly/1144882468

Bookshop:  https://bookshop.org/book/9781509250936

BookBub  https://www.bookbub.com/books/wild-irish-yenta-by-joyce-sanderly

Goodreads  https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/208880325-wild-irish-yenta?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=5PNQm2aezR&rank=1

About the Author:

Joyce Sanderly is a Pushcart-nominated poet and an attorney. She retired as a Senior Counsel at the U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission. Her poetry (written under Ellen Sazzman) has been published in numerous journals, and her poetry collection, The Shomer, was selected as a finalist for the Blue Lynx Prize, a semifinalist for the Elixir Press Antivenom Award and the  Codhill Press Poetry Award. She has lived in Washington, D.C. and Montgomery County, Maryland for the last forty years where she raised her family and practiced law for the federal government. Wild Irish Yenta is her debut novel.

To learn more about Joyce Sanderly and her writing go to:

www.joycesanderly.com

https://www.facebook.com/JoyceSanderly.author/

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Author Interview with Tina Fausett ~ #NewRelease!! Unrequited #WomensFiction #WRPbks #Blog

I am thrilled to welcome my dear friend, Tina Fausett, with a fun interview and her fantastic new release…

Please tell us a little about yourself, where are you from? Where do you live now? Family? Pets?

I was born in Oklahoma City and currently live there in a historic neighborhood with my best friend, Draco (minpin/chihuahua mix). My home is a 107 years old…I sometimes like to refer to it as my life in ruins. My main focus is on my children and granddaughter.

Was there anything unusual, any anecdote about this book, the characters, title, process, etc, you’d like to share?

This book is a work of fiction, however, most of the characters are based on people I know. I don’t care how old you are, I think everyone can agree that dating is hard, but I truly believe it gets harder the older you are. We change, we know what we want and don’t want, and I know for myself that I’m not willing to settle…we get set in our ways. Women in my age range (Baby Boomers) have typically spent a lifetime working and being caregivers…to our children, our husbands, our parents, our spouses’ parents, to grandkids…now a lot of us don’t want to do that with the years we have left, and I think that’s difficult for a lot of men… So, in discussing men and dating and sharing experiences, my friends and I decided that newly widowed and divorced men, bless their hearts, really needed help learning how to live again as well as how to date a contemporary older woman and the idea for a Widower Whisperers’ business was conceived. Though we didn’t actually form a business, I decided to write about it.

What do you want readers to come away with after they read Unrequited?

Deep down, I’m a hopeless romantic. I would like people to come away feeling good and understanding that it’s never too late…never to late to fall in love, never too late to pursue writing, art, a business…your dreams. And to know that on the inside, most of us seniors still feel young on the inside.

What actors would you like in the main roles if your book were made into a movie?

Susan Sarandon, Steve Martin, Pierce Brosnan, Helen Mirren

What is your favorite quote?

“Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.” I mean who hasn’t said it…or at least wanted to say it?

If you could spend time with a character from your book, whom would it be? And what would you do during that day? (PG-13 please 🙂

It would have to be with Thomas Fitzsimmons. I’d be picking his brain, cooking and/or baking. He’s intelligent, well read, has a sense of humor and he likes to get in the kitchen and stir things up. I just find it such a joy when a man likes to cook…for a multitude of reasons.

What is the toughest criticism given to you as an author?  

I was told by an agent that I wasn’t commercial enough. What has been the best compliment? I was told by the same agent that she couldn’t put my manuscript down all weekend, and I wrote like the classics. That being said, I still wasn’t commercial enough. That was years ago!

Are your characters based off real people or did they all come entirely from your imagination?

Ha! Almost all the main characters are based off people I know. The idea for the book came from my 50th reunion. People kept coming up to me saying they remembered me and my red hair. I have high school amnesia and didn’t remember most of them. My graduation class had almost 1,000 people. A couple of different men kept asking if I remembered them and showing me their badges with their graduation pictures on them. Young or old, past or present, their faces didn’t ring a bell. One man was a bit tipsy and actually got upset (I figured he must have been a big deal in high school and expected everyone to know who he was). Later I asked a friend (Betty in the book) if I had dated him or something, because according to her, I don’t recall going out with a couple of guys that were really cute. She didn’t think so, but out if it all I thought what if…what if there was really a story between them and a reason she doesn’t remember him. Except for his looks, Thomas is one hundred percent fantasy…much to my chagrin…he’s almost too good to be true! Darrell on the other hand…

What do your friends and family think of your writing?

That’s a mixed bag. I have such wonderful, supportive friends. Sometimes, I’m not sure if they’re excited if I base a character off them and/or something that’s happened to them or they’re terrified what I might write. But they are always so sweet. As for my family…they’re supportive of my endeavors, but my granddaughter has helped me a lot. She taught me about different writing apps and is great for getting a young opinion. I’ve been writing most of my life, and I feel that people who don’t write, don’t really don’t grasp what we do… It’s like they think if you’re not a best seller and a household name, you’ve just got this little hobby that you piddle around at.

What character in your book are you least likely to get along with?

Absolutely Darrell! He is a culmination of some of my worst dating memories.

How did you come up with the title?  

If the story was based on a relationship that Sally and Thomas had in high school, and he was disappointed that she didn’t remember him and didn’t return the crush he had on her…the one word that came to mind was Unrequited.

Is there a message in your novel that you want readers to grasp?

Yes, definitely. I think it was said by one of the bachelorettes in The Golden Bachelor. She said something about when you get older, people don’t see you anymore. There isn’t a lot of respect for elders these days…it almost feels like people are just waiting for us to pass on and quit taking up space. I would love for the younger generations to understand that we still have the same feelings and fears…that we’re capable of falling in love again…and we’re not dead till we’re dead. I started this book prior to the pandemic then health issues and 4 surgeries caused me to quit writing for a couple years…I can’t tell you how happy I was to see The Golden Bachelor and the chance those beautiful women had to be seen and to shine.

How much of the book is realistic?

Probably way too much. A lot of conversations and a few of the scenes actually happened…I’m positive a man will now think more than twice before asking me out.

Getting Old isn’t for sissies…and neither is falling in love

Blurb:

After a coffee date from hell, Sally Estes and her friends come up with an idea for a business-The Widower Whisperers, LLC. They train Newbies, recently widowed and divorced men, on how to start living again and to do the things their wives used to do for them. The hardest part is teaching them how to treat and court a contemporary woman. Little did Sally know this new venture would change all their lives forever, bringing back a man from her past she can’t remember and a history she wants to forget. What started out as a promising enterprise now threatens to destroy her friendships and everything she’s worked so hard for.

Excerpt:

His head was bent but Elaine could see the trace of a tear escape from the corner of his eye. She stretched forward and ruffled his hair. “Could we get back to Sally?”

“Yes, let’s,” he mumbled without looking up.

“I was just reading an article about her and some of her girlfriends starting a business called the ‘The Widower Whisperers’. Ghastly name I know and doesn’t exactly roll off the tongue, but catchy.

“They evidently help widowed and divorced men…newbies, they call them, get back into the swing of life and train them how to do the things their wives did for them, as well as getting them ready to start dating…I think they even have a course called ‘Women 101’. When I first saw their ad about four months ago, I kind of thought it was a ridiculous idea and had no clue Sally was involved. But it looks like they’re doing really well and have so many male clients that they’re going to branch out to females soon.”

“That’s charming and I wish them all the luck in the world, but it has absolutely nothing to do with us.”

“Well, if you think about it, it really is a good idea. It’s hard for most people to start over. You know what it was like after you and Gayle divorced. I remember what it was like dating after Jake died, before I met you. It was horrible. Men were absolute idiots, thinking they were suave and debonaire. You’d go to dinner, and they’d be putting down the ex, drinking too much, start trying to hold your hand and talking about back rubs…” She shivered and ran her hands over her arms. “It was creepy, and I don’t imagine it’s gotten any better as we’ve aged.”

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First off, I want to say that I never pictured myself this old writing about people this old. But we’re not dead yet and I realized there’s definitely a market and a need to tell our stories. (I think the fascination with the Golden Bachelor proved that). My favorite place is New Orleans where I once lived. A native of Oklahoma City, I grew up with a southern mom and she used to tell me I had swamp water in my veins. I’ve owned an antique store and art gallery, been a pickle pusher (I had a company called Red Hot Mamma’s Pickles), I’ve sold real estate in the Big Easy and OKC, yet I am always drawn back to writing. I’ve written mainstream, a children’s book that’s not published, some mystery and suspense with romantic and paranormal elements and even erotica. I can say, quite proudly that I have two Raunchy Read Awards. A rather haughty an unimaginative woman once asked if I regretted not focusing more on my intelligent side. woman. In response, I quoted Einstein. “Creativity is intelligence having fun.” 

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